I once had a friend tell me all she wanted to be when she grew up was a wife and mother. These roles are amazing and they are a HUGE part of our lives—it’s our purpose here on earth! But what do we do until our husband comes? For some it seems that their prince charming came quickly and for others the wait is long—a painful amount of time. If you’re anything like me, I thought I was going to be an old maid the rest of my life because I was 23 and single. Instead of focusing so much on how, when, and where we will find our future husband, we are better off focusing more on bettering ourselves and serving others. Maybe asking ourselves questions like:
-What things make me happy?
-What skill can I learn that will push me out of my comfort zone?
-What hobbies would be a good stress-reliever for me?
-What qualities in myself should I be working on?
-What am I passionate about?
-How am I spending most of my time? How is this bringing me closer to my personal goals?
-What interests do I have? And how can I learn more about them?
-What am I doing to become my best self?
Finding your passion, living with a purpose, having things you’re working toward, and finding hobbies that you genuinely love will help you live a happier life.
After my mission I tried to work on these things. I started teaching at the MTC because teaching others about the gospel brought me so much joy. I took up yoga to help me deal with my stress. I accepted the call to be a stake YSA institute instructor. I planned trips with friends to my favorite places. And I worked really hard to build up my savings. All these things turned out to bless my life once I got married. Looking back I am grateful for the guiding hand of the Lord during my single years. He helped me better myself and prepare for what was to come.
If you are feeling a little impatient about your future, or just needing a little push in the right direction, the questions above will help you recenter and refocus. I promise that if you sit down and really think about your answers to these questions, you will see things in your life a little clearer and be a little more motivated to work on you!