In this life there are going to be disappointments; it’s inevitable. We live in a day where there are constant temptations and traps of disappointment. There are going to be things that don’t go your way, things that really cut you down and sometimes make you feel down right terrible and make you want to escape all of your problems by watching movies on Netflix for a week just so you can forget the world. It could be that you didn’t get the grade that you worked for all semester long. Maybe someone beat you out for a job you felt you were well qualified for. It could be that the boy you’ve had your eye on and have been talking to for a while never asks you out. It could be watching your a family member struggle over and over again with the same thing for years. It could be those days when you are disappointed in yourself (yes, it happens, and we all know it) that you didn’t get that workout in, or maybe you didn’t even get ready for the day. It could be you let your temper take hold of you a little too quickly, and you said something you regret to a loved one or even to a stranger.
Each day can be full of disappointments. I’ll state that again each day CAN be full of disappointments. The question is, will you let them be disappointments?
As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we have learned from a young age about the Plan of Happiness. We believe and know that we lived with our Heavenly Father and his son Jesus Christ before we came down to this earth to be tested and tried. We accepted that plan, and we knew that in coming down to earth there would be hardships and disappointments. But we also knew that we would not be alone in the journey as long as we would reach out to our Heavenly Father. We also knew that through His plan we were given AGENCY.
We have the power to choose. Each day we get to make decisions. Each day we can decide to face disappointments that come our way with courage! Courage allows us to stare disappointments right in the face and tell them that they have no power over us. Courage is what allows us to see the good in the people that may have wronged us, and it gives us the ability to see ourselves as we truly are: daughters of God worth far more than we will ever be able to comprehend in this life. We are really so precious to our Heavenly Father.
There are a few things we can do that can help us face our disappointments with courage; most of these go back to the basic primary answers. These are some ways I have found that help me stay focused and not torn down by the test and trials that come my way!
HERE ARE THE SIX S’s TO OVERCOMING DISAPPOINTMENT:
SAY A LITTLE PRAYER
Prayer is so powerful. Through prayer we have the opportunity to speak to our Heavenly Father, and He can help us continue to have the strength to press on.
I have found on the days I am facing more disappointments than I feel like I can handle, keeping a constant prayer in my heart helps me to remember that at least one person understands me.
Read your scriptures. Gain strength from the Spirit. Read in the Book of Mormon about those who faced disappointments and trials with courage. It will give you more courage and strength! The story of the 2,000 stripling warriors and their mothers is one that always helps me.
I have found the days I study my scriptures, or other teachings from other Latter-day prophets, I am able to face the day with a little more hope! Personally, reading my scriptures in the morning is more beneficial for me because it starts my day with a better perspective. Try it. You may find it works for you!
Don’t be afraid to share with others your disappointments. You will be surprised by how many people have share similar disappointments with you. Sharing will allow you to connect quickly with others.
There are no coincidences in this life. We meet people for certain reasons. Become vulnerable so that you can help others through this life, and they can help you. Become close to your family; they will be your greatest support in this life!
I love my family and the joy they bring me!
SING OR SOMETHING
Music really is powerful. Whether you are making the music, listening to it, or dancing to it, music can lift your spirits. Listen to music that uplifts you and allows you to express yourself.
Remember to have fun; this life is short! You could even paint or go on a run. Do something that makes you happy! One of my favorite ways to make myself happy is to paint an inspirational quote and hang it on my wall for a future reminder that if I had the strength to make it through a hard time once, I can do it again!
In this September General Women’s meeting President Dieter F. Uchtdorf shared a powerful story about an elderly lady who took courage and moved forward with happiness in her life. If you haven’t had the chance to listen to the talk, here it is!
I just love this quote:
“I decided I had a choice—I could hang my head and drag my feet on the dusty road of self-pity, or I could have a little faith, put on a bright dress, slip on my dancing shoes, and skip down the path of life, singing as I went.”—President Dieter F. Uchtdorf
SCRIBBLE IT DOWN
When you do have those moments or days of disappointment, write them down! This will give you the chance to read back on the experiences and see what you did or did not do to make yourself feel better. One of my favorite things that I started in the past two years is keeping a little journal with me almost everywhere I go. It is kept with me to write down ideas, emotions, and promptings right there in the moment! This has helped me keep a brighter outlook on the things I am doing right now!
Jesus Christ taught us through many parables that service can lighten our load. I have found that when I take time to focus on others, my disappointments start to seem so small, almost to the point where I can forget about them, and I gain a broader perspective. Serving can be done in so many different ways and can be completely fun and simple! Bake some cookies, smile at someone, help someone clean their house, or leave them a nice note. My most favorite acts of service that others have done for me have always been simple ones that were out of the blue!
“We rejoice in these days and pray that we will be able to courageously face our struggles and uncertainties. The difficulties of some are more severe than those of others, but no one is immune.”—Elder Neil L. Andersen
I wish you all luck as you face the disappointments that will come your way! You can choose to face them with courage!
Hope on, journey on.
Guest Post by Kessa Merrill