Do you struggle with giving a good gift to a family member or a friend? Wouldn’t it be nice to have a disposable income to give the world to them? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to read their minds and “surprise” them? Those are not likely to be achieved in the near future. Fortunately, giving good gifts is a skill that can be improved upon!
People love to talk about themselves and their likes. If you take the time to listen to them on what they like, day by day, you can pick up on things about their personality and their desires. Nothing is more attractive to the other person than showing them that you were paying attention to them and the little details about them. It is also worth noting, that the best gift you will give someone is your undivided attention.
Leverage the registry or gift wish list
If they have a registry or a gift wish list set up, look to purchase a gift from there. The recipient hand-selected those gifts so you cannot go wrong! Always provide a gift receipt when purchasing gifts off a registry so should they need to return the gift due to duplicates or other personal reasons, they can exchange the gift. They will thank you for it!
Get some inspo from Pinterest
Check out their Pinterest boards for inspiration. Sometimes they will have a shopping list on there that you can leverage. If not, you have a plethora of images to spark your imagination and creativity.
Sometimes, it does not hurt to ask them, “your birthday (or special event) is coming up and I want to express my love and gratitude to you in a couple ways, one of them being through a gift. Is there something you would appreciate to receive?” If they are still reluctant and dismissive about it, I would ask another family member or a close friend for ideas. Asking the person should not be taboo. Until you become better at knowing the individual, asking questions does not hurt.
Words of affirmation
One of my favorite gifts to give is a compilation of words about how I feel about the recipient. It kills two birds with one stone – a gift and a card! It shows that you put in effort, took the time to be vulnerable and genuine, and the recipient will now have a tangible piece from of words of affirmation. They will also have something to refer to when they are feeling down on love. I personally love Knock Knock’s books. Another great one is Chatbooks.
Other love languages
Since we’re on words of affirmation, physical gifts do not have to be the default gift for the recipient. If they love acts of service, get them a cleaning service package or host a party for them. If they love quality time, book a Paint Nite class you can do together or go to a concert together. Or if their love language is food (haha, but really, it should be one) bake them a cake or take them to lunch at their favorite restaurant. Dig a little deeper inside and switch it up!