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Heavenly Father cares about what you care about. “Behold, he that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep” Psalm 121:4. He is available for help 24/7. He wants to know about our worries and questions and dating dilemmas.
Sometimes dating can seem to be more of a stress than something we enjoy. But when you get in a pickle and really don’t know what to do, I can confidently testify that if you pray diligently, God will guide you to know what to do—whether or not you should marry this guy, or if you should continue pursuing a specific relationship, or you end things with your current guy—God can help you.
Ask and ye shall receive.
Boyd K. Packer said, “The Lord has a way of pouring pure intelligence into our minds to prompt us, to guide us, to teach us, to warn us. You can know the things you need to know instantly! Learn to receive inspiration.”
So, what if you are asking and asking but not receiving the inspiration ‘instantly’?
Elder Packer goes on to say, “It may be that you are not doing anything wrong. It may be that you have not done the right things long enough. Remember, you cannot force spiritual things. . . . Put difficult questions in the back of your minds and go about your lives. Ponder and pray quietly and persistently about them. The answer may not come as a lightning bolt. It may come as a little inspiration here and a little there, “line upon line, precept upon precept” (D&C 98:12).”
Elder Packer’s words bring so much hope. The answer will always come! It can come as a still small voice, through the scriptures, through a feeling or impression, or through an experience.
God cares about what we care about. If you are stressed about your current dating situation, take it to Heavenly Father. He will guide you to clarity and peace. He will lead you to the right people. He will help you do hard things and make crucial decisions. Ask and you shall receive. But be consistent. And be patient.
Thinking back on my dating life, I can remember specific times where the spirit helped me make some important decisions. I remember breaking up with a guy because I felt a clear impression, “This man is not your husband.” After that hard conversation, I wanted to say, “Thanks, Heavenly Father!” He saved me so much time and hurt down the road. Another time I was dating a guy that I thought would be my husband, but I got this bad gut feeling every time I imagined us married. That bad feeling was a warning. Heavenly Father gave me the strength I needed to end things (which was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do). He was kindly and patiently leading me to my perfect match.
Elder Packer concludes, “Young people, carry a prayer in your heart always. Let sleep come every night with your mind centered in prayer. Keep the Word of Wisdom. Read the scriptures. Listen to your parents and to the leaders of the Church. Stay away from places and things that common sense tells you will interfere with inspiration. Develop your spiritual capacities. Learn to tune out the static and the interference. Avoid the substitutes and the counterfeits! Learn to be inspired and directed by the Holy Ghost. . . . There is a spiritual beam, with a constant signal. If you know how to pray and how to listen, spiritually listen, you may move through life, through clear weather, through storms, through wars, through peace, and be all right.”
As we try to keep the commandments and tune into the spirit, we can truly live in harmony with God and His plan for us. It takes work to ask and actually get answers—but the answers will come.