I’m 28 and I just figured out that all the not-so-perfect days are part of life too! I was driving home the other day feeling pretty overwhelmed with everything I’m trying to juggle right now. (Suddenly in those moments we selfishly become the only ones going through trials.) I literally huffed and puffed all the way home looking for something to blow down! Life is hard sometimes, and most days aren’t perfect! I get so frustrated when my day doesn’t go like I planned. On this particular day I was ready to be a pouty, grumpy mess when the words, “This is all part of life…” came to my mind.
No one said life would be rainbows and butterflies, right? But no matter how much I plan and prepare, things rarely seem to go as planned. And when they do, I’m completely exhausted from trying to stay on course the whole day! I let that thought stew in my mind during the whole week and it was actually quite liberating. Now don’t get me wrong. This doesn’t mean we don’t have hopes and dreams, schedules and to-do lists. I’m just saying that all of the little inconveniences in our day, week, or month are actually all a part of the big plan too. I began to see how tremendously blessed my family is and how many things were right in our life.
Each one of us has a choice. We can focus on those difficult moments by making them the whole story or just include them as learning experiences that are really part of a greater story. Sometimes we think when a certain class is over, I’ll be much more relaxed. If I make it on a certain team, everything will be better. When I move away, or move back home, things will be easier. When this holiday is over, I can get back to my routine, and in the meantime I’ll be a total nut. When I’m over this cold I won’t be so grumpy. But…there is a holiday EVERY single month! You never stop learning, so you’ll always be taking or preparing for one class or another (or your kids will someday). If you’re not sick, then someone close to you will be. You might get traffic tickets, eat a less-than-healthy meal, cry with a friend, or find out someone needs your help in the middle of a very busy day. You will forget an appointment, crack your phone, stub your toe, hear that someone said something mean about you or not have time to shower! This is all part of life. Obviously, you don’t plan on these things happening, but they happen.
The amazing part of my discovery was that I have choice. I can choose to embrace each and every fortunate or unfortunate change of plans as part of this blessed earthly experience. Our story in this chapter of our lives begins to be glorious no matter how lost or confusing some moments may seem. We eventually realize how each and every experience in our lives had a purpose and was part of a greater whole. These moments in life become more meaningful when we can be grateful in our current circumstances.
We can choose to be grateful, no matter what…We can experience gentle peace in the midst of tribulation. In grief, we can still lift our hearts in praise. In pain, we can glory in Christ’s Atonement. In the cold of bitter sorrow, we can experience the closeness and warmth of heaven’s embrace. ~ President Dieter F. Uchtdorf
I hope it is as empowering for you as it was for me to realize that all of the disappointing events in life are not life itself. The difficult and challenging experiences do not have to become the center of everything we do or the way we feel. This isn’t to say we have to be cheerful and happy all the time, but we can choose to be grateful while having a positive attitude. The ups and downs are all part of this wonderful adventure called life.
Post by Melodi Melecio, Blossom’s Specialist on “How to Be Your Best”