Many a girl has felt it – the pressure of dating. Whether it’s the obligation to go on a date with whoever asks you, the pressure to kiss after a date, or the pressure to date in general. Well, forget it. I’m here to tell you that you do not need to compromise what you feel for the satisfaction of others.
My sister had no desire to date in high school, but she still had a great four year experience. She surrounded herself with friends that were encouraging and held the same standards that she did, whether they were members of the Latter–Day Saint faith or not. To you girls that think this sounds familiar, my sister is now married and sealed to her best friend. If you live your life worthily, the Lord will take care of you and provide you with opportunities. Though it is great to get outside your comfort zone and try new things, don’t let others put you down for not wanting to date. Besides, boys have cooties.
Ok, change of scene. It has come to the end of a date. It’s the doorstep. To kiss or not to kiss? This answer is pretty simple. It is a personal choice and you will feel it if the moment is right, but the default is that you don’t owe him anything except your manners and gratitude. I had a seminary teacher in high school that even went as far to say that boys don’t even have the right to touch you. If a young man is making you uncomfortable, let him know.
Finally, don’t feel pressured to go out with every guy that asks you. Saying no can be hard, I know, but 10 seconds of discomfort will save you an entire evening with someone you do not feel comfortable with. I had an experience like this in high school when homecoming came along. A guy asked me to go with him, but he was not very respectful and I would have felt uncomfortable. So I politely thanked him and told him no, in person. Sure it was awkward for a bit, but I know I made the right decision.
Dating is a lot of fun, but if you decide to do it, do it right. Don’t apologize for your standards and don’t let the pressure of those around you make you resent them.
My name is Taylor Hall and I am from San Diego, California. I moved to Mesa, Arizona right before my junior year of high school, and I fell in love with the desert and everyone in it. I am currently a sophomore working on my BA at the University of Arizona – Bear Down! My dream is to become a pilot. I thoroughly enjoy making people smile and I am a huge fan of long boarding, laughing, adventuring, cars, and guacamole. I am a huge geek, especially when is come to anything from the 80’s. I always try to look on the bright side of life and make every day fabulous.