As I have gotten older, I have started to pay more attention to those I associate with and look up to. Through this, I have quickly realized that when I choose to associate and hang out with friends who are positive about life and uplifting, I tend to feel much happier. I am more productive, I am more helpful, and I feel more confident in myself and in my life. I have decided I’d like to set goals to help me become the type of woman that uplifts and makes other people feel happy, rather than someone who complains and spreads negativity. This isn’t always easy, but learning how to think, speak, and act in a positive way is something that can completely change your life and could possibly change the lives of those around you.
The prophet Joseph Smith once said, “Happiness is the object and design of our existence.”
Heavenly Father designed us to be happy. He wants us to be positive! Our mortal experiences may not always be entirely ‘joyful’ per se, but overall our experiences in this life should help us to progress and achieve happiness and joy. It is often referred to as “The Plan of Happiness,” after all!
We may not be able to choose our circumstances, but we can always choose how we react to them.
There have been times in my life when I have chosen to be negative rather than positive. Instead of pointing out the things I like about a certain person, I chose to see the things about them that I didn’t like. Looking back at those times, I so wish I would have chosen not to waste so much time being angry or pessimistic. It didn’t change my actual circumstances, it just made it harder for me to be happy. It also probably made people not want to be around me as much.
Reading daily from the scriptures, praying for help, smiling, serving other people, exercising, organizing, meditating, sharing the gospel, and attending the temple are all things that can help you become a more positive person and enjoy the beauty of life more.
Sister Elizabeth Lloyd Lund of LDS family services said, “Happiness is a choice for most of us. It takes effort and the practice of gratitude, trust, and faith. The negative can take all the room in our lives if we allow it. We may not be able to change the circumstances in our lives, but we can choose how we react to them.
President Thomas S. Monson said, “We can’t direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails. For maximum happiness, peace, and contentment, may we choose a positive attitude.”
I know that setting goals of being more positive women can greatly help us and those the Lord puts into our lives.